Alexa Ilacad on finding her soulmate in KD Estrada

“Age is really not a problem,” said Alexa Ilacad, who is two years older than her onscreen partner KD Estrada. The two, collectively known as KDLex, have been “dating exclusively” since 2022.

“It’s not a big deal, as long as you’re on the same wavelength, have the same level of maturity, and are on the same page in terms of your relationship. That’s all that matters,” Alexa told Inquirer Entertainment in a recent interview.

The two still refuse to confirm the rumor that they are in a real romantic relationship, although Alexa once referred to KD as her “constant,” and her “dream come true,” while KD described her as his “partner.”

Alexa said she appreciates that KD is very patient. “Sometimes, we would talk and I’d say, ‘What if in the end, nothing happens to us?’ He’d say it’s okay with him and that he’s happy to be getting the chance to love me,” Alexa said. “I also feel the same. It’s like a privilege. I plan to just enjoy the journey. If the outcome would be us in the end, then thank God. If not, then thank you.”

The singer-actress said she finds value in waiting. “It’s true that good things come to those who wait. I feel like we’re slowly planting seeds in each other’s garden. One day, we’re going to reap the benefits of that together. I don’t know if I’m just an overthinker, but I would sometimes say that at this age, I want my status in life to be like this; or I want to be able to have this or that when I reach this particular age; or have my own family at this point. This is why I really try to make sure that the path getting there is clear.”

She continued: “It’s really good to wait because only then will you be sure if everything you’re doing is all worth it or if you’re just fooling yourselves. This is just me.”

Alexa said it is also important that her relationship is supported by her family. “When I was younger, and was still so naive, I would say, ‘When my mom disapproves of the person I love, I will fight for him no matter what.’ Today, I realized that I was wrong. It’s more important that my parents approve, because there’s peace and bliss in this particular kind of relationship. I’m lucky because we are both well-loved by our families,” she pointed out.

Selfless

Asked to share what she considers the best thing about being with KD, Alexa said, “It’s the support I receive from him. The way he loves [me] surprises me. I’m surprised how someone is capable of being so selfless. I thought that guys like him couldn’t be real—someone who I know just cares about me, about my genuine happiness. He is very supportive of whatever I want to achieve in life, even though he isn’t included in the picture.”

The quote ‘I love you so much that I want you to be happy, even if I’m not part of it’ really applies to him. Of course, he’s part of it, but that’s how I feel about him. It’s overwhelming, but in a good way. I guess that’s what you call a soulmate. I felt that early on,” Alexa declared.

Work together

At the recent media conference announcing Alexa as the newest host of the reality show “Pinoy Big Brother,” Alexa described as “ideal” the marriage of her PBB cohost Melai Cantiveros to Jason Francisco, and has set it to be her “relationship goal.”

“Sobrang solid nila! The fact that they got married and have built a family and a beautiful life together, who wouldn’t want that, right?” Alexa said. “When I get into a relationship, I make sure there’s a goal, or an intent to take it to different levels. I don’t date for laughs or just because I’m bored. Hopefully, that person shares the same goal as I do. I’m very vocal. KD and I talk about things like that. We check if our goals are aligned, if we have the same dreams, and if we can work together toward achieving them.”

Felt like a win

Alexa and KD were both part of “PBB Kumunity Season 10” in 2021. Surprisingly, Alexa’s most memorable experience was when she got evicted. “We had no idea what was happening outside. We craved to hear music or someone from the outside talk. We had no idea if people were actually watching,” she explained.

“When I stepped out of the house was when I felt the warm reception of people, not just toward me but also toward KD. It was also memorable to finally hear the stories of other people, how they were able to relate to us. They’d say, ‘I’m so proud of you because you did this or that.’ I may not have won, but I felt like a winner,” Alexa said.

After its July 20 premiere, “Pinoy Big Brother Gen 11” will air weekdays at 10:15 p.m. on Kapamilya Channel, Kapamilya Online Live, A2Z, TV5 and iWantTFC.