Alma mater homecomings: Celebrating shared history and enduring bonds
As our alma maters host homecoming events, it is a time for alumni to reflect not only on the path they have traveled but also on how they present themselves within these familiar halls. While the joy of reconnecting is paramount, a subtle yet significant aspect often goes unaddressed: the art of attending without offense or ostentation.
The fundamental truth of any alumni reunion is simple: It is a reunion, not a résumé contest. We are there to share memories, reminisce about laughter and lessons, and reflect on the experiences that shaped us. Our presence is a testament to gratitude for the foundation our schools provided, not a showcase of our accumulated net worth or professional accolades.
Adhering to basic alumni etiquette ensures a harmonious experience for all. Punctuality and active participation, whether for a solemn Mass or an engaging program, demonstrate respect for organizers, former teachers, and mentors. Following the dress code is not about appearance but unity and acknowledgment of their planning.
Warm greetings extend a powerful sense of inclusivity. During speeches, especially from jubilarians or educators, mindful attention and putting phones away show respect for and honor the speaker’s contribution.
The spirit of sharing, rather than dominating, is crucial. While recounting our journeys is natural, it is important to engage others and allow quieter batchmates to share their narratives. Responsible consumption of beverages is paramount; respecting the program’s flow and refraining from side conversations during awards or tributes, ensures every moment is appreciated.
Conversely, common pitfalls can unintentionally cause offense. The most pervasive is flexing job titles, possessions, or travel experiences. A casual mention of a recent European trip is understandable, but repeating it can alienate others. Alumni events are not fertile ground for sales pitches or multilevel marketing schemes. Attendees come to reminisce and reconnect, not to be solicited for business.
The microphone and dance floor, too, have their limits. Batch presentations should be concise and respectful of allotted time. Dredging up embarrassing past incidents, such as academic failures or unrequited romantic interests, can reopen old wounds and cast a pall over the reunion.
A key point is unwavering respect for teachers and staff, the architects of the memories we are celebrating. Taking time to greet them, express gratitude, and perhaps even pose for a photograph is a small act with immense sentimental value. Avoiding cliquish behavior is also vital; while it is natural to gravitate toward close friends, making an effort to mingle across different batches fosters a broader sense of belonging.
The political arena should remain outside reunion conversations. Homecoming is a time for unity and shared history, not divisive debates or arguments. In the age of social media, discretion with photos is essential. Asking permission before tagging individuals, especially in unflattering pictures, ensures everyone’s comfort and privacy.
The golden rule, deeply ingrained in our Filipino culture, aptly encapsulates the ideal approach: “Walang lamangan, walang yabang, walang iwanan.” This translates to celebrating success without arrogance and ensuring no one is left behind. When sharing personal achievements, framing them with gratitude is key. Instead of boasting about becoming a CEO, a more appropriate sentiment would be, “I am blessed to be where I am today, and I attribute much of that to the foundation this school and these teachers provided.”
Alma mater homecomings reinforce the bonds that tie us to our past and to each other. By embracing humility, respect, and a genuine desire to connect, we can ensure these events remain vibrant celebrations of shared history and enduring community.
REGINALD B. TAMAYO
Marikina City
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